Newminimalism is a state of mind.
Men crave love [see photo]. First they crave the love of a missing father. Fathers are often gone, absent, or incapable of providing the love their sons need. In schools kids suffer from the absence of male teachers, mentors, role models, and administrators. University is usually the same experience form male youth all over again because the culture of the modern campus is feminine. Workplaces are a simple continuation of this experience for men.
Sex brings men little respite as it becomes more about male physical needs and less about love. Intimacy in the love act is often absent for men so they resort to online porn, or comfort ladies, to release the sexual tension which is ever present for a man who is love deprived. Weed and other drugs offer men a welcome but "temporary holiday" from their emotional cocoon. As we see on the daily news the natural outlet for these pent-up male emotions is their acts of violence and self-harm [these men are not victims but they are the product of a social system that ignores their most basic needs]. Self-hate within men surfaces as rage which is played out against those around them and the destruction of the material possession of those who do not "love" them. They also perpetuate acts of abuse which is directed towards their familial in a flurry of irrational behaviours. Men join gangs, football supporters, clubs, etc for companionship and "brotherly love" and as such these become untethered cooperatives with a bias towards acts of unprovoked violence.
The plight of men in the "modern first world society" is not that different to what existed in the 1950's but today an omnipotent social media better records the results of male neglect.
There is no simple fix that I can offer you, my male reader, but I can urge you to "love unconditionally" your male offspring. Tell your male child "I love you son" on a regular basis. Spend time with your child doing what he loves to do. Tell your child about your life experiences and, depending on his age, make it "a worsts-and-all" story of your life as a male. Impart skills to your child and inculcate a male frame of mind. Ensure that you have an intimate relationship with your son. But. Remember to heal yourself first or what you spew all over your son will be the bile of hate that has built-up within you. Some fathers may need to seek professional help, some may need to join male dominated clubs, and some may need to find brotherly love from workmates, familial, and those who bring male values to their conversations.
Men are individuals first and members of a collective second. This simple fact is not a positive for men who seek to make sense of a life that is lived within a networked society that has a greater and greater focus on wants not love. Power, status, and wealth are wants and they are not, and never can become, substitutes for love.
Richard.
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